Have you ever heard that you were too sensitive? It seems that things affect you more than they affect others. Any situation or circumstance, insignificant as it may seem, generates in you a reaction that most people consider exaggerated. It seems like you’re constantly having your emotions on edge, and maybe you’re feeling some emotional hypersensitivity.
“Never apologize for being sensitive. Showing your emotions is a sign of strength, not weakness. ”
– Ignacio Novo –
People who have this emotional hypersensitivity have a sixth sense of meaning, a high degree of empathy through which they can recognize different emotions in others. For example, if someone suffers, they will see it before everyone else, and if a person is not happy, they will know it too.
The problem is that it affects them personally; since they feel more than others, they appropriate the suffering of others. This is why, in many cases, emotionally hypersensitive people are characterized by emotional impulsiveness that surprises those around them.
Everything is a matter of perspective
Our view of the situations depends on the development of emotional hypersensitivity, even though we can not deny the existence of a biological component; In any case, this is the conclusion drawn by the psychologists at Stony Brook University in New York following a study carried out on this subject.
As part of this same study, psychologists have made photographs of brain function that show that more sensitive people have greater activation of the frontal cortex when faced with happy or sad faces, for example. No doubt they capture and check details more precisely than less sensitive people.
But whatever happens, it all depends on the environment in which we evolve. Indeed, it is a combination of genetic and environmental factors that will give rise to emotional hypersensitivity. Take for example a child born in an unstable family environment, which would generate serious emotional deprivations. As he grew older, he would have difficulty regulating his emotions, and because of his childhood, his sensitivity would be accentuated compared to that of others.
Sometimes you feel overwhelmed with feelings around you, and this prevents you from being able to listen to yourself.
This child may well develop a great shame, a great shyness, a great lack of self-confidence, etc., but still, the point of view plays an important role. By making efforts or trying to see the situation from another angle, this circumstance can be improved. In this way, even being emotionally hypersensitive, we will be able to manage our emotions by expressing and governing them in a much less exaggerated way.
See the trees, but not the forest
Emotional hypersensitivity can be very positive. You can rest on those who need it, enjoy a great deal of empathy, and adapt your behavior to those who are going through a bad time. But to focus too much on the details, you could leave aside a more global vision of the whole.
That’s why it’s so important to see things from different points of view.When you focus on the details, your point of view is influenced by your own feelings and focused on something concrete, because you give them too much importance and you overreact to things that others do not perceive.
For example, a word or phrase said or said with a certain intention can generate in you a great aggressiveness, a great anger or a great hatred, whereas the others will not have noticed anything, or will not consider it important.
Your hypersensitivity is favored by the problems you have experienced in the past. In other words, if you have missed affection, have been lied to, or have been hurt. Thus, finding yourself in a situation similar to this – or anticipating it – will affect you in a much deeper way.
Can emotional hypersensitivity be positive?
Yes of course.In fact, it allows us to better connect with others and help them if they need it. The problem is that emotional hypersensitivity also has negative consequences such as lack of confidence, or difficulties in managing emotions and susceptibility.
I feel more than others, the slightest thing squeezes my heart. My pores ooze the emotions and I am unable to control and manage anything.
Anxiety, stress and depression are diseases that affect people with emotional hypersensitivity. The difficulty that prevents them from feeling fewer things, to stop worrying too much, or to avoid focusing on what others do not know, makes this “gift”, considered by some people, the worst enemy. of those who have it.