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If the door does not open, it’s not your way

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If the door does not open, it is simply because it is not the good and even less the good way.

Yet, sometimes, we spend far too much time and effort searching for keys for which there are no doors.

There are impossible destinies, people who do not fit in our locks and ways that it is better not to go.

If it is obvious that none of us is exactly where we are at the first attempt, we must know that getting lost from time to time is rather beneficial.

To open doors that we then close to gain experience, to know who can integrate our world and who not, is something that is worth to be realized without fear and with a suitable balance and attitude.

When a door that brought us happiness closes, it is often said that another opens. But we can not always see it because we spend most of the time weeping because the other one is locked and we lost the key …

Psychologists and sociologists have long wondered what makes people choose one path and not another.

It is often said that our choices define us, but in reality, many of these mechanisms that make us go in a certain direction are still unaware. We invite you to think about this.

An open door is sometimes a wall to knock down

The popular saying says that when one door closes, another opens. We also hear that happiness is like a butterfly.

If we pursue it, it escapes us so that if we remain calm, it comes to us. If we stick to these principles alone, it means that happiness and opportunity come alone and almost by magic.

When a door closes, we tend to stay a long time to regret it.

Nobody reacts so as to immediately see the other exit where is the best choice, the best way. To better understand, you may want to look at the following book, entitled “The art of choosing” by psychologist Sheena Iyengar.

Dr. Iyengar is blind. When she arrived in Canada from India, she knew that her family, as her culture would have it, was going to decide on her marriage at some point.

In addition to her blindness, there was the idea that she could never leave this circle, this personal prison. Thanks to the university, she realized that the minds of others do not have the right to decide her choices.

The doors that others close on us are also walls that we can knock down.

Today, Sheena Iyengar is a reference in the psychology of personal choice.

Repeat when many doors have closed

Maybe at some point in our life we ​​will not make the best decision and it will last for a long time. Enough to make us believe that it was our ultimate destiny.

However, it was not, and behind this door is today the void and the rumor of our past sorrows. Maybe it was a relationship, a job or a friendship that did not end well.

Destiny is not something we should see, we must create destiny with determination and courage, covering the most appropriate doors.

Now that we know that the famous “emergency door” does not open immediately, the one that leads us to true happiness consists of a labyrinth of doors through which to transit.

Keys to find the most suitable way

No path chosen during the journey of life was chosen in vain.

Far from regretting having opened a door, because we had this or that spouse, we did this or that project, or simply because we experienced more frustrations than joys, it is necessary to accept what has been lived as a beautiful apprenticeship.

Every scar learns, and every path supposes an invitation to “start anew”.

  • Understand that when something ends, happiness does not come back alone. It is necessary to go through a moment of reconstruction, reconnection with oneself and close the door, the stage of a suitable way.
  • There will come a time when we will feel ready. Instead of looking behind us, we will feel the invitation again to move forward, we will find the desire to dream, to walk with more confidence and wisdom.
  • Also understand that there is no “ideal” path, no door has the key to permanent happiness or the solution to all our problems.
    It is our own journey that gives us the answers, and the joys come and go. The only thing we need is to be more receptive, and above all more courageous to discover all the trails that remain to be discovered …

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