Many relationships are working and thousands of partners around the world are flourishing through their love stories. However, it happens that the couple is out of breath, that events do not take the desired turn and you wonder what you do in this duet that smells ashes.
Keep in mind that respect, trust and communication are the basic building blocks of any successful relationship. If one of these three pillars is affected, the other two are shaken but can still support the couple until the three foundations solidify. To find out better if you have to leave your partner, ask yourself these 5 important questions and if you answer “yes” to each one it is time to pack up. If you answer “yes” to only one question or two, help your couple recover from their minor weaknesses.
THE COMPANY OF YOUR PARTNER HAS BECOME A BURDEN FOR YOU?
Clearly, you hate to call him, send him sms or even see him. You are running away from him! Time seems endless when you are together and you can not wait to get rid of this person. If you prefer to stay with your friends and his presence disturbs you deeply, you must react and take charge of your future. Be honest and dare to confront this person who missed you as soon as you feel it closer to you.
DO YOU FEEL HANDLED OR “AGRESSED” BY YOUR PARTNER?
Your partner makes you a scandal for each of your actions. Each time you think of trivialities and he gets angry as if you had made a mistake. Respect between you is dead and even when your partner is wrong, he never apologizes to you and pushes you back to him without recognizing his mistakes. You have come to the point of controlling all of your actions for fear of displeasing that person with whom you are supposed to feel free, spontaneous and fulfilled. You must realize that you are being manipulated and even your partner’s nervous reactions are a form of aggression.
HAVE YOU CHANGED (LESS) FOR YOUR PARTNER?
The person you have become since you are in a relationship is totally different or even the opposite of what you were before knowing your partner. Any evolution can be positive or negative for a person, it is necessary that the latter wishes it. If you have changed to please your partner and that your partner is putting real pressure on you to change your behavior or habits, or makes you believe that you are not “good enough for him” or that you do not “Do not deserve”, remember to leave him urgently. A person who does not love you as you are can go find his ideal elsewhere.
DO YOU FEEL TRAPPED?
You do not see any way out of your relationship, you can not project yourself with your partner because you do not see any future with him. Nothing seems to presage a positive project in common. You are not even happy anymore with this person who has become totally foreign. Go to the obvious, face your fear of abandonment and say that every time you only postpone the deadline of a break that will do you more good than harm.
DO YOU NOTE THAT EVERYTHING IS REASON FOR DISPUTE?
All your discussions are at arm’s length, it can simply be a meal or your weekend activities. You can not find any common ground and there are dozens of shouting matches. Nothing is ever simple when it comes to discussing yourself like any self-respecting couple. You understand that you must stop fighting for a yes or a no and limit the damage of this relationship that is not healthy anymore.