Sleep positions that say a lot about your relationship

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Although body language may vary, the posture we adopt while sleeping with our partner speaks volumes about the emotional situation we are in right now.

If you think about it seriously, you will surely realize that when you have a fight with your spouse, you tend to turn your back on him or look for a good position that avoids him when you sleep. Likewise, you have probably noticed that after a romantic day or if things go well between you, you fall asleep intertwined and as close as possible to each other. All specialists and psychologists agree that the position in which couples sleep tells a lot about the period they are going through. Although body language varies according to people, it is, in general, an emotional opening on the situation in which the couple is. Would you like to know more about the positions you adopt with your spouse?

Back to back but touching

Couples who are accustomed to sleeping in this position show that they respect each their respective space but never lose contact. They are dynamic, they manage their lives independently but their relationship is healthy and stable. According to specialists, this position indicates trust in the couple, without having to be always in the presence of the other.

Back to back and separated

This position is a warning: something is wrong in the relationship. Keeping a distance and wanting more freedom is a necessity for both spouses. The lack of contact between the bodies, positioned in opposite directions, may mean that there has been a strong argument or that one of them is seeking total independence.

In this case, it is important to analyze the position. For example, if the hands are closed and the body is stretched, these are signals that show that the couple does not want to communicate and that the presence of the other is unbearable. On the other hand, if the body is relaxed, there is no tension in the couple and this can only indicate that trust reigns and that everyone respects the space of the other.

Facing each other, without touching each other

Sleeping in this position shows that spouses need intimacy and need to see each other. Each of them knows how to respect their moments of intimacy but their connection prevents them from taking a distance. In general, these types of couples manage the routine and everyday problems more easily.


Experts agree that this position is the signal for a very strong passion. This is especially common when the relationship has just started or when the couple has just had intimate relationships. Being intertwined could reveal sexual desire but according to experts, couples who are used to this position usually suffer from jealousy.

In spoon

According to specialists, the person who has a habit of hugging tends to guide and protect the other person. The embracing spouse feels good and safe at his side and he may feel in danger if he is not snuggled against the other. This is a position that reflects the perfect harmony in the couple. it can sometimes indicate that there is some insecurity in the relationship.

Tight in arms

Experts agree that, in body language, this position shows commitment, love and tenderness between the two people. In general, this indicates that the couple’s sex life is excellent. Sleeping with your head against your spouse’s shoulder is an element that proves that the person feels safe with the other.

The one who takes all the space and the one who takes a little

This position is not good in a couple, according to experts, since the person who takes up all the space in the bed does not show affection to his spouse. It also means that the couple is having a difficult time, and the person who occupies the least space suffers from self-esteem and insecurity, whereas the one who takes up a lot of space always believes that the relationship works well.

Each his space, with the feet intertwined

This position shows that both people love each other but that they should pay more attention to their relationship. Experts say it’s a combination of love, passion and differences in the relationship. Sleeping with your feet together is a symbol of commitment and complicity in the relationship.

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