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The 18 rules of life of the Dalai Lama

Mind & Health
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The Dalai Lama is an emblematic figure for many of us. His philosophies are evocative of peace of sharing and exchange. Share them without moderation!

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risks.
Risk is involved in every great occasion of life. If there were no risks, then everyone would act, which would make people “ordinary” and not “big”. Stand out from others as one who can not only take risks, but who appreciates doing so.

2. When you fail, do not fail the lesson.
If you forget what you have learned not to do, you will be condemned to repeat your actions. Most importantly, do not be afraid of failure. Because failure is the precursor to success. Nothing great has been accomplished without failure.

The purpose of life is not that we are perfect, but that we become the best possible version of ourselves. It is more important to be authentic than infallible, and we gain to listen to our instinct. The only real mistakes are those we make repeatedly. The others are learning opportunities.

3. Follow the three R’s:
Self-respect – Trust is the key to success and if a person does not respect himself, you can not believe in it. So, if you do not respect yourself, you can not achieve great things because you can not respect others.

Respect for others – And you will be respected in return. If you do not return the respect of the others, some will assume that they are not worth to be respected, and because of this, they will not respect each other.

Responsibility for all your actions – You are solely responsible for your feelings, your actions, your success, etc. You totally control your life, do not try to blame others for mistakes and misfortunes.

4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
Trying to get everything you want will not necessarily be good for you in the long run. If something seems to never work, as if fate intervened, consider letting go and come back later. The Universe acts mysteriously and must be trusted.

5. Learn the rules for how to transgress them correctly.
The rules are made to be broken. Most of them are set up by corrupt old institutions that only seek to enslave and maintain their own power. When it comes to breaking the rules, do it correctly to avoid repression. But above all things, make sure you do it right. If the authority had never been questioned, we would be stagnant civilization.7

6. Do not let a little hassle break a great friendship.
Obviously, friendship is much more important than a little argument, but very few people put this rule into practice. You must also be able to follow rule # 7 to follow rule # 6.

7. When you realize that you have made a mistake, take immediate action to correct it.
And do not let your pride hinder these measures. Forgive yourself and take full responsibility. That will say a lot about you. It is not the number of our failures that determines our ultimate success, but our ability to extract wisdom from it and then move on with new energy;
The errors are neutral; we can do what we want. Depending on how we perceive them, they will overwhelm us or guide us to success.

8. Spend some time alone each day.
No matter what you do, spend at least 30 minutes of your day alone in a quiet place. This will give you at least half an hour to observe what is happening in your life, to become aware of who you are and to understand what you want. Whether through prayer, meditation, yoga or golf, this ritual is a must.

9. Open your arms to change, but do not let your values ​​fly away.
The world is constantly changing. If you are not open to change, then you will be unhappy. You will change yourself, but that does not mean that your values ​​must change too. Welcome new places, new faces and new loves, but never change those important parts of yourself unless you have good reason to think you were wrong to believe it.

10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
Silence leads to relaxed contemplation in which emotions have less influence and where logic can take over. For example, if you argue with a friend, keeping silent rather than fighting back with a friend is more effective and will end the argument much more quickly.

11. Live your life with honor.
As a result, as you grow older and look back, you will be able to enjoy it a second time. You will have to live with your actions for the rest of your life, so to save yourself from regret and anguish, live your life with honor from now on. Good things come and good people too. You will never be punished for acting with integrity.

12. An atmosphere of love in your home is the foundation of your life.
This is the rule where you have the least control. As in rule # 3, if you respect (love) your family, they will respect you and love you in return. Bring love into your home. Make the walls shine with tenderness. This will establish a solid foundation in the life of your children.

13. When you disagree with loved ones, focus only on the present.
Do not wake up the past. The past is constant, immutable. Awakening the past can only bring more pain to the situation. Forgive past actions and focus on the present.

14. Share your knowledge.
We learn so much in a life. Sharing your knowledge with the people you meet can only help them. More importantly, share your failures and experiences so that others do not make the same mistakes.

15. Be gentle with the earth.
The earth is where we live. So, that should be obvious. To hurt the earth is to hurt oneself, the future of your children and your loved ones.

16. Once a year, as often as possible, go somewhere where you have never been before.
Discover new places and new things. You could end up with someone somewhere that makes you happier. The Earth is so vast with unique and beautiful places, why not go explore a little?

17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your own needs.

The opposite can be a clue that your relationship must end. If you need someone more than you like, it’s a sign of addiction, not affection. Find someone where love is the dominant force and in which the relationship is much more fulfilling.

18. Judge your successes from what you had to give up to get there.
Decide what you want. Design your ideal life and go for it. Do not let any part of this dream escape, so you will never live in regret. Everything is good because everything is useful – as long as you know how to seize the learning opportunities that come your way.

If you perceive difficult experiences as bad omens, they will have a negative impact. If you see them as opportunities to grow, you will know how to transcend them.

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