When a child suffers emotional abandonment

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Unfortunately, talking about emotional abandonment never falls on deaf ears, especially if the substance of the debate is about a child.

Emotional abandonment consists of a huge lack of emotional needs and, in extreme cases, a great deficit in psychological and, by extension, physical health.

The dictionary defines abandonment as an act that involves “letting go, leaving someone or something”.

At the moment when the child suffers from emotional abandonment, what he feels is that feeling of helplessness that parents sometimes try to fill with material needs.

The affection is vital for the emotional development of a child

In the growth stage of a child, it is important that he feels surrounded by parents who are worried about what he needs, but often they are so focused on this part that they neglect the most emotional .

The child is surrounded by material objects such as clothes, toys, appliances, etc. but a child also needs proof of love as a hug or a conversation about his or her morale.

There are certain circumstances which favor the origin of this problem because often the emotional abandonment comes from the lack of time of the parents.

Parents, sometimes, are forced to work schedules that, irremediably, do not allow them to listen to their child as they would like: the impossibility of reinforcing the emotional links can make it think that we can fill them with a another way.

However, the affection is vital for the emotional development of a child to grow happy and psychologically healthy: according to some specialists, he should receive the security and approval to feel in a family to which he belongs.

Otherwise, the emotional damage that is created in the child can be irreversible.

Consequences of emotional abandonment in children

The consequences that can come from emotional abandonment may be more important in a child.

In fact, the experience he experiences can cause psychological and emotional damage that he will surely feel his whole life. We will see some of these possible consequences:

  • Difficulties in school: it is the second habitat of the child, so if his entourage is not adapted, it will not be either.

All negative repercussions may be reflected in his activities at school and in his daily life, and in his           relationships with other children.

  • Eating Disorders: Generally, when we feel emotionally uncomfortable, it directly affects our eating habits.

Emotional abandonment directly impacts health in the form of disorders, which may require                 therapy.

  • Problems with self-esteem: maybe this is one of the most important points. Although it is obvious that this is not always the case, the self-esteem of a child who suffers from emotional abandonment tends to decrease gradually.

This can have repercussions on the development of the personality, and is externalized in the form of co-dependence, violence or even depression.

  • Depression and anxiety: the emotional damage created can be quite severe in adulthood.
    Lack of security or self-confidence can lead to depression, states of anxiety that make everyday life difficult and the inter-personal relationships it has.

A negative family reflection: when emotional abandonment has negatively impacted a child, the likelihood that he will reproduce that in his future family is greater.

  • Often parents who do not care about the emotional health of their children have not received support from their own parents.

Any child can suffer emotional abandonment in his life, even at a fixed time.

Any indication of emotional abandonment must be treated by a specialist who can take control of the situation and resolve the emotional deficiencies.

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