MINDFULNESS RELATIONSHIPS

you have to learn to get away from people who do not need us

Mind & Health
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We must learn to get away, to think of ourselves and to understand that no matter what happens, we are the only indispensable people in our lives. All those who harm us are too much in our environment.

If you are used to using social networks, we are sure you know the famous “delete a friend” option.

Sometimes we accumulate in these spaces people we do not really know, which brings us more problems than benefits.

Today, among the youngest people, it is common for friendships to end in this way.

That does not exist on social networks, does not exist in life. It’s a cold, impersonal way of breaking ties.

If we take this example, many of us should do the same thing in real life.

Sometimes we carry these relationships on our shoulders and they greatly handicap our personal growth.

However, it is not a question of knocking at every door to say that we do not want to start a relationship.

It’s all about prioritizing and not wasting time and effort with people who do not deserve it.

When we no longer need us: the importance of seeing it

It is not always easy to realize when we stop being important to someone.

Moreover, it is possible that the other no longer respects us, and that this need becomes interested.

It is necessary to know the difference between those who need you in an authentic way and those who, in reality, have been detached from our heart for a long time.

If you have children, you may have noticed that there is always a time when they do not need us anymore.
Now it has something to do with everyone’s maturity and the ability to be independent.
In reality, children will always need us.

There are friendships that always appear punctually, in the most interested moments.

Sometimes they need advice, support, and feeling listened to. We must therefore pay attention to this kind of case.

We will offer our support, affection and understanding to our friends, as long as there is reciprocity.
Like any type of relationship, a friendship is based on a sincere exchange of emotions, thoughts, supports, etc.
If you do not feel any of these dimensions and you see that these people are looking for you when they want something in exchange, do not be scrupulous about setting limits.
As we pointed out earlier, it’s not about breaking the link overnight.
In reality, it is enough to tell the truth and to firmly mark the limits.
“I can not do that because I do not feel it.” I notice that you seek my friendship only when you need something. I would like more recognition from you. ”

The pleasure of counting for the people for whom you really count

Do not worry if, during your life, you had to leave a lot of people on your way.

In reality, life is moving forward to keep only the essential, what really matters and that fills you completely.

If you have a light-hearted mind and a fulfilled heart, you will have more happiness, and that’s why we must not hesitate before we evict those who no longer need us and do not need us anymore. .

There will be times when you will feel a lot of pain when you realize that someone who is very important to you has stopped giving you importance and need of you.

  • Remediation of this pain takes time, but we must always remember that the greatest love of our lives is ourselves.
  • If we do not love each other and we do not respect each other, we will not be able to open the second chance door.
  • The people who really matter to you are very rare, but they are surely the best.

It’s not about “accumulating people” as we do on social networks. In life, it is better to prioritize and love those who are before us.
Those who really need you, know how to demonstrate it to you in an honest way, without selfishness or blackmail.
Those who love you respect you and know how to establish this daily exchange where everyone wins and nobody loses.
If the people who need you know how to show it, never forget to tell them the same thing.
Show those around you that you need them. It’s a very deep form of recognition because they feel useful, important and indispensable in our lives.
We need many things to live on: food, shelter, warmth, and moments of leisure and freedom.

However, we must not forget that the most important “things” of this world are people.

It is therefore important to know how to respect, recognize and leave behind unnecessary weights that can cause suffering and put a brake on our personal growth.

Think of yourself first, and live every day for yourself and for those who really matter to you.

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Mind & Health

Mind & Health's mission is to disseminate information in the field of health and well-being. The information provided in this magazine is intended to improve and not to replace the relationship between the reader of the magazine and his doctor. The use of plants for therapeutic purposes can in no way substitute or be added to medical treatment current without the advice of a doctor.